Show Some Love this Valentine’s Day... and everyday.

The year is flying by! We’re already halfway through February and Valentine’s Day is already almost upon us. This is traditionally a time of year when we spend time looking at ourselves, our relationships and where it’s all headed.

Many people will say that we don’t need one – heavily commercialised – day to show ourselves and our loved ones what they mean to us, but it’s a good excuse to do so and to have some fun in the process. However, we’re all busy people and sometimes showing how we feel can slip a bit. Valentine’s Day gives you the chance to spoil yourself, spoil the people you love and be spoiled with all the little gestures that might have got lost during the year. And it can kick-start you into more loving practises.

It’s almost mandatory to spend this time of the year focussing on love and on the special people in our lives. Each moment is a gift, that’s why they call it the present and being present with your loved ones and yourself is the best gift you can give anyone. Actions speak louder than words and we need to spend time together to stay together.

Straight from the heart

A great way of keeping love alive is to have more Valentine’s Days. Simple gestures – sending love letters, cards, articles and pictures that connect with our loved ones out of magazines – are great ways of showing that you care. It doesn’t have to be everyday, or even every week, but keeping the spirit alive is a fantastic idea.

Passion in Action

We all know how busy life can be. Many of us spend long days commuting, in the workplace and way from home and this can leave us too tired for passion.

Get fit. Stay fit. The fitter you are, the more easily you’ll be able to keep the action in your passion. Exercise makes us happier and gives us more energy… energy we can use to keep the fire in our relationships. They say that even the AVERAGE 20 – 30 year old makes love two or three times a week, the AVERAGE 30 – 40 year old once or twice a week and the AVERAGE over 50 year old goes BACK to two or three times a week!  (Who wants to be average?)

Making love is an integral part of showing love. It’s important for retaining the warmth and closeness with your partner and for maintaining intimacy. It’s hard to beat that feeling of connection after a night of passion.

Smile and Kiss

Did you know… kissing relieves tension? A proper passionate kiss is like yoga: a fantastic technique. When you’re engaged in a passionate kiss, your eyes close and your breathing deepens, which is what happens when you relax. When you shape up for a kiss, your mouth is in a shape similar to smiling and it’s almost impossible to hold tension while you’re smiling.

Kissing also prevents tooth decay. According to Dr Peter Gorden, dental advisor at the BDA: “Kissing is nature’s own cleaning process. It stimulates saliva flow and brings plaque levels down to normal.”  And it’s free!

Where Are You?

Did you start the year resolving that things were going to be different? Were you planning to start a new activity? Give up a habit? Get fit? Did you want to make a change in your life?

If reports are true, over 80% of people who made New Year resolutions have already failed. One reason for this astonishing statistic is that people often fail to address what really motivates them, focussing instead only on their behaviour.

Many of us experience that gap between our hopes and reality. Many look for answers outside themselves. The truth is - if you know how to look - the answers are within. With the year ticking away, are you any closer to achieving your business and personal goals?

If the answer is “no”, or “dunno”, it’s time to take action. Contact me for a free – no obligation – questionnaire to that will help you gauge where you are and quantify the gap to where you want to be.

Fourteen Tips to Show Some Love

Valentine’s Day isn’t all about showing love to others. If you don’t love yourself, it’s really hard to show real love to others. Even if you’re currently single, apply these tips to yourself as well as the important people in your life.

1. Do three random act of kindness for strangers and don't get found out.
2. Write a love letter – or try your hand at a poem – to your partner, detailing what you love about him/her. If you're currently single, write to yourself, detailing everything that is great about you.
3. Remove things from the bedroom that are not for getting dressed, loving or sleeping and change the sheets.
4. Light candles around the house.
5. Decide if you want to spend Valentine's Day by yourself, with friends, significant other or family.
6. Plan where to spend Valentine's, and make reservations and think of a fun way to get to your destination.
7. If you are having dinner at home, decide on the menu, make a nice dessert and clean up the house.
8. Find some uplifting music to play at home or in the car. Start listening to it now.
9. Compliment your love and yourself at least three times a day.
10. Get some extra exercise in today; try some yoga moves.
11. Take a nice, long bath. Exfoliate your skin, and make sure you smell and feel great.
12. Do three nice things for yourself and your significant other today.
13. Pick up an uplifting movie, flowers, card (bought or home-made) or anything else you need.
14. Send a virtual valentine.

"May this Valentine's Day be filled with love, understanding, and contentment as you journey through life with those you hold dear" ~ Darly Henerson

Have a wonderful Valentine’s Day and keep the spirit alive throughout the rest of the year.

Adie DeCoursey

p.s. Please feel free to forward this as an e-mail to your friends, if you think they might find it interesting.

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